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Still Water Does Not Lie | What the Lincoln Memorial Reflecting Pool Is Trying to Tell Us About Legacy, Family, and the Work We Keep Avoiding
Latest essay Jul 3, 2026 · Juneteenth

Still Water Does Not Lie

What the Lincoln Memorial Reflecting Pool Is Trying to Tell Us About Legacy, Family, and the Work We Keep Avoiding

The Lincoln Memorial Reflecting Pool has been trying to get our attention for over a hundred years. Legacy Healing Strategist Lisane Basquiat traces what it reveals about stewardship, inherited…

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Still Water Does Not Lie | What the Lincoln Memorial Reflecting Pool Is Trying to Tell Us About Legacy, Family, and the Work We Keep Avoiding Jul 3, 2026 · Juneteenth Still Water Does Not Lie | What the Lincoln Memorial Reflecting Pool Is Trying to Tell Us About Legacy, Family, and the Work We Keep Avoiding The Lincoln Memorial Reflecting Pool has been trying to get our attention for over a hundred years. Legacy Healing Strategist Lisane Basquiat traces what it reveals about stewardship, inherited family patterns, and the w Who Delivers the News of Freedom? | The Legacy of Juneteenth in Our Families⁠ Jun 24, 2026 · Juneteenth Who Delivers the News of Freedom? | The Legacy of Juneteenth in Our Families⁠ On June 19, 1865, Union soldiers rode into Galveston, Texas with a message two and a half years overdue. The Emancipation Proclamation had been signed January 1, 1863. The war was over. The law had changed. More than 250 The News That Never Came | What Juneteenth teaches us about the patterns we are still living in — and the work only we can do Jun 19, 2026 · Juneteenth The News That Never Came | What Juneteenth teaches us about the patterns we are still living in — and the work only we can do On June 19, 1865, Union soldiers rode into Galveston, Texas with a message two and a half years overdue. The Emancipation Proclamation had been signed January 1, 1863. The war was over. The law had changed. More than 250 Why Adult Children Stop Talking to Their Parents | The pattern was running for years before the silence started Apr 17, 2026 · Inherited Patterns Why Adult Children Stop Talking to Their Parents | The pattern was running for years before the silence started The same family argument keeps happening because the pattern driving it hasn't been seen. Almost 50% of US adults are estranged from someone they once loved. It’s time to see the pattern so you can change it. 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In this week's feature article, we dive into my conversation with Simone, founder of Color My Outdoors, who left a 60-h Why Do Old Patterns Take Over When I'm Stressed? | Where it started—and what it's still costing you Feb 13, 2026 · Inherited Patterns Why Do Old Patterns Take Over When I'm Stressed? | Where it started—and what it's still costing you Lisane Basquiat, CEO/Founder of Shaping Freedom, explores why stress activates childhood patterns you thought you'd outgrown. 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They were inherited. Jan 29, 2026 · Inherited Patterns Why Am I Turning Into My Mother? | Your responses aren't random. They were inherited. Why do we react like our parents even when we know better? Written by Lisane Basquiat, this article explores how childhood patterns shape adult responses. Learned nervous system rules drive tone, shutdown, and control un The Ten-Minute Truth | A realistic approach to fitness, motherhood, and self-trust Jan 2, 2026 · Shaping Freedom Podcast The Ten-Minute Truth | A realistic approach to fitness, motherhood, and self-trust In this week’s feature article, I sit down with Brittany Williams to talk about what happens when you stop waiting for perfect conditions and start working with the life you actually have. 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Staying There Is a Choice. | How to break free from inertia and find your flow Whether it’s a job that seems like a road to nowhere, relationships operating on autopilot, or just an overall feeling of inertia, everyone encounters “stuckness” at some point in their lives. And since we live in a soci Together, We Heal | How Showing Up For Others Helps Us All Thrive Dec 3, 2024 Together, We Heal | How Showing Up For Others Helps Us All Thrive What does it mean to create healing in an era of political and social unrest? This is a question that many individuals, particularly those in marginalized communities, are grappling with in this unprecedented moment. 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To heal, we need to move beyond the rhetoric and face our collective responsibil The Beauty of Boundaries | How Setting Your Own Rules Powers True Fulfillment Nov 11, 2024 The Beauty of Boundaries | How Setting Your Own Rules Powers True Fulfillment Burnout is often seen as a natural byproduct of ambition, but it doesn’t have to be this way. When we create smart boundaries, we can harmonize with our hustle to build a life driven by balance. The Hidden Strength of Vulnerability | How Creative Expression Redefines Resilience Nov 4, 2024 The Hidden Strength of Vulnerability | How Creative Expression Redefines Resilience In many families, the journey toward emotional openness is an intricate dance between cultural pride, generational resilience, and the quiet, pervasive shadows of unspoken pain. 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Rather, it could be about creating space for all parts of ourselves, especially the ones we’ve been taugh The Myth of Endless Giving - Does committing to your own wellness come with a secret side order of shame? Sep 17, 2024 The Myth of Endless Giving - Does committing to your own wellness come with a secret side order of shame? In many cultures, particularly for women, the idea of self-sacrifice is glorified, if not altogether deified. We’re told that being a good parent, partner, or professional means giving every last drop of ourselves to oth Centering Wellness in Every Aspect of Life – Grind culture is often viewed as the ultimate path to fulfillment. But what if we flipped the narrative? Sep 10, 2024 Centering Wellness in Every Aspect of Life – Grind culture is often viewed as the ultimate path to fulfillment. But what if we flipped the narrative? In today's hyperconnected world, grind culture is often viewed as the ultimate path to fulfillment. 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